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People pleasing quiz

Am I a people pleaser, or just nice?

Ninety seconds. It opens on what you want, which is the easy part, and ends on the sentence you have never said to anyone. You leave knowing the habit you keep picking, and one move for this week.

A woman at a cafe table passing a small dish back to her companion with an open hand
  • You tap, you never typeThe first ones are easy to answer. The last ones are the reason people close the tab.
  • One habit, namedThe one your answers kept choosing, with the line it is known by and how often it came up.
  • One move for the weekWritten from that habit, and sized so it is done by Sunday rather than started.

Am I a people pleaser, or just a nice person?

The test is whether a no was available. Kindness is choosing to help when you could have declined. People pleasing is what happens when declining never felt like an option.

From outside they look identical, which is why nobody has told you. From inside, one leaves you warm. The other has you agreeing on Monday and resenting it by Thursday.

  • The yes arrives before you have decided anything
  • A no needs a reason attached, and if they answer the reason you fold
  • Nobody close to you could say what you actually think about much
Woman in profile seeing her reflection in a train window, one hand paused mid-gesture

The eleven this test reads from

Your answers are scored against the same eleven the app watches. One will come back more than the rest, and that is the one worth a month.

  • A desk call bell
    People pleasingSaid yes anyway, then resented it all week
  • A sealed envelope
    Not saying what you thinkChanged your opinion mid-sentence, because of a face
  • A dial turned down low
    DownplayingMade something you like sound like nothing much
  • A tissue box with one tissue pulled up
    Being everyone’s therapistThe group chat therapist who had nobody
  • A heavy cardboard moving box with its flaps open
    Hyper-independenceCould not ask for help without feeling like a burden
  • Two shoes side by side, one a different style from the other
    Losing yourselfMolded yourself to fit into his life
  • A phone lying face up showing two read receipt ticks
    Anxious attachmentA delayed text became a full character study
  • A door slightly ajar with a key still in the outside lock
    Pulling away firstLeft before it could be done to you
  • A single crumb on an otherwise empty plate
    Accepting breadcrumbsThe breadcrumbs felt better than the silence
  • A glass of water standing completely still
    Peace feels boringIf it was not hard you assumed it was not real
  • A theatre mask held up on a thin stick
    PerformingPolished where people can see, holding it together underneath
One of these eleven is taking more than the rest

The test names the one your answers keep choosing, and hands you a move for the week.

Show me the one I keep picking

A starting mark, and the week it starts moving

This page names habits. It does not put a size on them. Answers given once cannot tell a bad fortnight from a ten year habit, and a number invented on the spot is precision nobody earned.

What you get here is the habit you kept picking, the two beneath it, and a move for the week. The size, and the eight habits you did not name, arrive in the app, where they are scored again every week and week nine sits beside week one.

Woman in a quiet kitchen setting her phone face down on the counter, a kettle on the stove behind her

The glow up that starts on the inside

Get back the parts of you that you filed down to keep everyone else comfortable. Thirty seconds a day, and a number that goes up.

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What the test can tell you, and what it cannot

Is this quiz a real test?

No. It is not a clinical instrument and it does not diagnose anything. What it does honestly is name which of eleven habits shows up most in what you chose, and hand you one move for the week. Anything promising a diagnosis from a quiz is selling something.

Do you keep my answers?

They stay in this tab and go no further. The app works the same way: what you tap lives on the phone.

Why is there no score at the end?

Because answers given once can name a habit and cannot size it. A quiz handing out a 12% or a 94% is inventing a decimal it has not earned. The size is worth having when there is a second reading to put beside it, which is what the app is for.

What happens at the end?

You get the habit your answers kept choosing, named, with the two underneath it and the line the app uses for each. Then one dare, written from the biggest one, and sized so it is done by Sunday rather than started.

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